Aug 10 / Simcha

Encouragement vs Praise

“Encourage the deed [or effort], not the doer.”  — Rudolf Dreikurs, psychiatrist/educator, (1897-1972)

Research by Carol Dweck, Ph.D. a professor at Columbia University (now at Stanford), reinforced the notion that too much praise is, in fact, not always good for children.  For over ten years, psychologist Carol Dweck and her team studied the effect of praise on students in a dozen New York schools. Her seminal work — a series of experiments on 400 fifth-graders — found that children praised for being smart or talented when they accomplished various tasks tended to choose easier tasks in the future.

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Aug 10 / Simcha

Our Obsession with our Kids’ Happiness

Artist: Lou Brooks, The Atlantic (Summer 2011)

Do parents do their children a favor when they are present to address their every need and request?  When they are available at every moment (in person or by text or cellphone) to protect, calm, soothe, remind, help out, and help make decisions?

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